Some people might think that addicts can’t handle break-ups in recovery. Surviving a broken heart is one of the most difficult things to deal with in life; it doesn’t matter if you are in recovery. Losing someone you care about and dealing with the realization that the relationship has reached its end is a huge challenge. It doesn’t matter how tough, how physically strong or how old you are; a broken heart will hurt and will do damage. I’m sure a lot of you have been hurt before. Maybe you have had an ex cheat on your before, maybe you had a mutual break-up, but it hurt all the same. However it happened, if you were in love, there is going to be a recovery period.
There are some survival tips to help you handle a broken heart in recovery. Tips to make sure you never return to the bottle or the needle to help deal with emotions. Hopefully you never have to deal with a broken heart, hopefully you meet–or have already met–the partner of your dreams. You guys fall in love and live happily ever after. It’s always better to be prepared and have the right tools than to be blindsided by a huge flood of negative emotions and have no way to handle them. Here are some steps to help you through it.
Let It Out
Did you just get your heart broken? Then let it out. Cry.
Once you’re done crying, cry some more. Grab some tissues, blot your eyes, blow your nose and cry some more. Get those good deep cries out, the ones where you want to stare at yourself in the mirror to see how hard you’re actually crying.
Crying is natural, tears are natural; it’s all part of the healing process.
Surround Yourself with Friends
Once you’ve gotten a good share of the crying out, call up some friends. Call up your best friend. If they’re not available or have an excuse, find a new best friend. If they can’t be there when you need them most, then it may be time to reevaluate your friendship with them.
If your friend can come by, have them come over. Cry a bit more when they’re around, but try not to get to that “mirror cry level” I mentioned before. Tell them what happened and let them be there to support you. Call some other close friends or family members up and try to set a date to go out. Have some fun.
Getting your mind off of your ex is going to help a lot. Go bowling, go out to eat, go to the movies, play some board games–DO WHATEVER besides dwelling in your own pit of misery.
Don’t Try to Find a Replacement
People aren’t like light bulbs or batteries; you shouldn’t be able to replace them easily. If you are truly heartbroken, then don’t try to hide your pain by finding a replacement.
You need to process the pain properly and deal with the loss of that part of your life. Filling that hole with dirt isn’t going to make the pain go away. Movies and TV shows always talk about a rebound, but rushing into new relationships can be more detrimental than good.
If you are financially able to, go splurge on that purse or new pair of Jordans you’ve been wanting. Don’t spend too much–don’t add stress to the fire–but get yourself something nice.
Besides spending time with friends, there are plenty of things you can do to stay busy. Maybe find yourself a new hobby or start exercising regularly. Check out some movies you’ve been wanting to see or binge-watch the newest Netflix craze.
Don’t just sit alone in your bed accompanied by nothing but the sound of your whimpers. Moving on from pain means understanding that you can have fun in your own company again. Get to know yourself again.
Handle Break-Ups in Recovery with Ease, Not Relapse
If you or a loved one are struggling with substance abuse, it’s time to get some addiction treatment. Relationship break-ups are common triggers for drug and alcohol relapses, so if you begin to notice odd and/or depressive in someone you know, get help immediately. Call our 24-hour helpline at (855) 619-8070 and one of our agents will gladly walk you through how to spot addiction, holding interventions, and getting your loved one into treatment. Call now.