Surviving a broken heart is one of the most difficult things to deal with in life, it doesn’t matter if you are in recovery. Losing someone you care about and dealing with the realization that the relationship has reached its end is a huge challenge. It doesn’t matter how tough, how physically strong or how old you are; a broken heart will hurt and will do damage. I’m sure a lot of you have been hurt before. Maybe you have had an ex cheat on your before, maybe you had a mutual break up but it hurt all the same. However it happened, if you were in love there is going to be a recovery period.
There are some survival tips to help you handle a broken heart in recovery. Tips to make sure you never return to the bottle or the needle to help deal with emotions. Hopefully you never have to deal with a broken heart, hopefully you meet, or have already met, the man/woman of your dreams. You guys fall in love and live happily ever after. It’s always better to be prepared and have the right tools than to be blind sided by a huge flood of negative emotions and have no way to handle them. Here are some steps to help you through it.
Let it Out
Did you just get your heart broken? Then let it out, cry. Once you’re done crying, cry some more. Grab some tissues, blot your eyes, blow your nose and cry some more. Get those good deep cries out, the ones where you want to stare at yourself in the mirror to see how hard you’re actually crying. Crying is natural, tears are natural; it’s all part of the healing process.
Surround Yourself with Friends
Once you’ve gotten a good share of the crying out call up some friends. Call up your best friend, if they’re not available or have an excuse, find a new best friend. If they can’t be there when you need them most then they’re as worthless as a degree from Trump University . If your friend can come by have them come over. Cry a bit more when they’re around, but try not to get to that “mirror cry level” I mentioned before.Tell them what happened and let them be there to support you. Call some other close friends or family members up and try and set a date to go out and have some fun.
Getting your mind off of your ex is going to help a lot, go bowling, go out to eat, go to the movies, play some board games. DO WHATEVER besides dwelling on in your own pit of misery.
Don’t Try and Find a Replacement
People aren’t like light bulbs and batteries, you shouldn’t be able to replace them easily. If you are truly heartbroken then don’t try and hide your pain by finding a replacement. You need to process the pain properly and deal with the loss of that part of your life. Filling that hole with dirt isn’t going to make the pain go away. Movies and TV shows always talk about a rebound, but that has to do more with desires than feelings. I’m not going to put my two cents in on that.
Treat Your Self
If you are financially able to go splurge on that purse or new pair of Jordan’s you’ve been wanting. Don’t spend to the point where you are adding stress to the fire but get yourself something nice.
Keep Busy
Besides spending time with friends there are plenty of things you can do to stay busy. Maybe find yourself a new hobby or start exercising regularly. Check out some movies you’ve been wanting to see or binge watch the newest season of “Orange is the New Black” (if by some miracle it came out at the perfect time). Don’t just sit alone in your bed accompanied by nothing but the sound of your whimpers. As I mentioned before, dealing with the pain and crying is fine, but don’t do it for too long.
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